James J. "Jim" Prochilo

Jim , our hearts are broken . We know no kinder man than you . We love you and always will . Sheri , Scott , godchildren , Heather and Kevin . We will meet again .

Jim was the best neighbor to our mom. She loved him and enjoyed her visits with him. Every Christmas she told everyone who came into her house about the gift cards from Jim, she appreciated them so much. She loved sharing her gluten free muffins with him, we were never sure if he really liked them but he always told our mom that he enjoyed them. He was truly a wonderful guy and the epitome of a great neighbor. We are all so very saddened by his death, our mom will miss him greatly. We are so very sorry for your loss Dawn and family.
With Sympathy,
Debbie ( Jenkins) Selinger

Jimmy was always a welcoming presence and kind man. Listening and taking interest in what you were saying and was going on with you.

Dawn, I am so sorry to hear about your husband. You and your family are in my prayers.

Alice Malcolm

I’m so sorry to hear about Jim, he has always been a great guy. We were both members, range officers at Danvers Fish & Game. For years now on our club clean up day, Jim would shop-vac out all our Skeet machines/house’s. This was/is one of the dirty jobs, with all the broken bird pieces, orange dust, etc. He would spend hours, in a small area, in the heat, until the machine shined like new!! I have many great memories’ about Jim, what a kind soul. My thoughts & prayers are with his wife, family, Chris & friends.

Love you brother ill miss you your friend. MITCH

I know this is late but I was only made aware of Jim’s passing a few minutes ago.
I was fortunate enough to meet Jim a couple of years ago and spent some time with him and it was time well spent.
Jim’s easy smile and laughter always was a bright spot of my day and I would gladly go in early if it was for Jim.
Every time I got to see Jim it was like a little
ray of sunshine that helped me get through my day.
It just came naturally to him and I am a better man for having known him.
His generosity with his time and knowledge I will be forever grateful for.
I had a long phone conversation with Jim in late february which I am grateful for.
I don’t have to explain to anyone how easy Jim was to talk to or how he only said things that were worth listening to either for a laugh or some wisdom
or a profound question that would
lead me to some new insight.
We had plans to meet up for coffee in late february and I had to cancel due to lack of sleep and Jim told me to rest up
and we would get together soon.
I only recently realized why he didn’t respond to me afterwords.
I will forever regret that I didn’t have that one more chance for great conversation and listening to a man who didn’t say anything unless it was worth saying.
Jim took me skeet shooting for the first time a couple of years ago.
I was very well versed with the shotgun from my days on an anti terrorism team in the Marine corps.
I also know that no matter how much you know there is someone that knows something I don’t know.
Jim was a great teacher and had no ego about anything in my experience with him.
Jim’s generosity with his time and knowledge and telling me exactly how to shoot the course of fire allowed me to shoot far better than I had any business shooting.
It’s a bit different than what I was used to,
but Jim’s patience and expert advice really impressed me and also made me want to learn more.
The other guys out at the skeet range were all very welcoming and if I
didn’t get injured I had planned to join the club.
But it was Jim who took the time to invite me and show me around and teach me things I didn’t know and time and knowledge are two of the most precious gifts one can give and Jim gave them
both generously.
It was a challenge and it was the first time I had been challenged shooting in decades and I had a great time
and learned a lot from Jim.
Jim was just really one of a kind and someone I admired.
I cannot put into words how grateful I am for having spent the time I spent with him.
I’m not a man that sheds tears often and I’ve seen more things than most and life has made me a man that does not openly display emotion.
but I shed a tear now for Jim,
he has my deepest respect and there are no words i can write to adequately express my condolences to his loved ones.
But I know Jim would not want me to be filled with sorrow at his passing yet I still
find myself shedding tears for
a man who made a profound impact on me in ways that I never got to express to him.
So I’m writing this in hopes that those who knew and loved him know that he spread positivity and kindness and made the world a better place in ways he wasn’t even aware of just by being his true authentic self.
I don’t take council from many but Jim
was someone whose advice held weight with me.
I held onto each laugh and pearl of wisdom he shared with me because I saw in Jim a man that I aspire to be like.
I wish his loved ones healing and happiness in memories of him.
It may seem as though I’m rambling but I can remember Jim telling some other people about me shooting the pistol and how he had never seen anyone so good with the pistol as I was and it made me feel like I was a kid and a beloved uncle that I never had was telling people I was the best he had seen shoot.
And that was really special to me.
It wasn’t that I shot well it was the joy on his face and in his voice when he said it.
he was just an authentic man and it really struck a chord with me that i didn’t even know existed.
That’s just how he made me feel
like I had someone I
admired joyously telling others how good I was.
I didn’t care about if people knew I could should I would be embarrassed if I couldn’t shoot that well.
It was Jim telling other people about it that really just made me feel golden.
I am sorry I just don’t have the words to
express how much that meant to me.
Jim was and still is golden in my book and I
will forever be grateful for having known him.
There aren’t many men I aspire to be more like but Jim is at the top of the list of good men in my book.
With the impact he left on me in what little time I was fortunate enough to spend with Jim I can’t fathom the whole he has left in the lives of those who knew him and loved him over the years.
But for what it’s worth he’s not gone if we think of him and keep the memories.
I can only speak for myself in saying that Jim shined a light that resonated with me and I will forever be grateful for the gift of his friendship.
Most people call me James.
and if they call me Jim it’s because they are someone who I consider friends.
And Jimmy is usually reserved for those who I’ve either done a lot of 911 calls together or been in combat with.
When Jim called me Jim or Jimmy it was endearing and I never corrected him because it seemed like that’s what he should have called me because of my respect and affection for him.
It really was like having a wise, kind, funny uncle I never had when I met Jim.
Maybe it was because of our interest in shooting and my background in firearms
and his background being so different both of us could learn from one another and I love to be around someone who knows things that I don’t know and had no
ego attached to anything he ever did or said.
He just the kind of man that makes good men want to be better men.
I think the best way to put it is if I was given the choice between a million dollars or Jim’s respect,
I would take his respect because that’s what matters in this life.
It’s not what you have it’s how you impact other people and Jim brought out the best in me.
I will carry on, pushing forward and improving the position because that’s the last thing I told him I would do.
I don’t want to let him down because I know he wouldn’t want to let me down.
So Jim my friend I will push on and improve the position and when I drive across country this next time I will be carrying a piece of you with me.
I am sorry I wasn’t there to show my respects and as I’ve mentioned my words
cannot express how grateful I am for what he taught me and the gift of his friendship and if I knew that phone conversation was the last time I was going to speak to him I would have told him I thought of him as a man I admired and deeply respected.
words fail me now and I hope those who knew him are reminded of him whenever they see the beauty in the world.
I hope that makes some kind of sense but he was really a great guy and when I
spoke to him last he was asking me if I’d be ready to go to the range when the weather got better.
I’m sorry if i seem
selfish only addressing my interactions with Jim but I’ve never been one to write on this sort of thing especially so long after the fact.
but maybe someone will
come here and read this and see that Jim did more good in the world just by being his authentic self and that I would like to think I had earned his respect because he is the kind of man that other men aspire to be like in many ways.
best regards
Jim Rpwe